You find it difficult to impress a girl? You are finding some ways to get a girlfriend?And now you desperately want to know how to get a girlfriend?
Don’t worry I will make it damn easy for you.I would say just relax and go with the flow.
Now what if I say getting a girlfriend is as easy as making a tea,LOL ,relax I was kidding , just trying to make it cool and a little fun.So here what I mean is ,if you want to get a girlfriend first thing I would say is don’t be stressed or take tension about how will you get one ,don’t worry I would say “be cool”.It is not like any exam that you have to be serious or be stressed out because of it.
Now I will tell you how to get a girlfriend in a most easy and kool way.First of all I will tell you some of the most interesting real facts which can not be denied or you can also take it as some of the tips that will help you more on to get a girlfriend.
10 Tips to get a girlfriend
Be Distant
There is no woman present in this world who responds to desperation and I am dead sure when I say this. If a girl gets the slightest clue that you are desperate for her then you are the past. I am not saying every girl is like this but most of them are. The reason behind this is a sense of fear that all the girls posses. Your desperation creates a doubt in her head about you and she will start to wonder about your intentions behind that desperation. So, lesson here is to stay aloof, be cool, and let her come to you. This might take some time but will work until and unless she is interested in someone else more.
Confuse Her
I know this sound mean and mechanical but as they say everything is fair in love and war. A confused girl is easy to get. Now the question arises how to confuse a girl. The answer to this is simple and lies in the first point (Be distant). If a girl know that you like her, then, it is nearly impossible that she would fall for you. But, if she is in a state of dilemma, weather you like her or not, then you have a better chance. Now, I’ll tell you what I use to do. First, I will talk to her very nicely for few days, and then suddenly, I won’t even look at her. This goes on for sometime. Then again I will start interacting with her like nothing happened. Bull’s eye! You are one up. This is the first step. Now, she is confused. What do to now?
Signs
This is a technique which girls use on boys. I call it “hit and run” method. In this method, what you have to do is give little signs and signals to her. Give her a sweat look once in a while. This method is built on the previous method, “confuse her”. This again is not conclusive. It will be like this, she knows that you like her but is not completely sure. If you reach at this stage then that means you are not very far away from your destination. But things to remember here is when you are looking at her, your eyes should say I am sweet.
Be Funny
If you can make her laugh then you can make her fall in love with you. The previous line is very important. If you’ll ask any girl about the qualities she wants in a boy or man; the answer would be he should be funny. I know it is impossible that every man would be funny but I have good news for you, it is not very hard to make a girl laugh. But the catch here is that there is fine line between being a guy which makes her laugh and another guy who she thinks is a joker. And a girl might like that joker but will never have any romantic feelings for him.
Jealousy
Imagine there is a girl you really like. One day you see her talking to a boy. How would you feel? You will feel jealous but more than that a feeling of insecurity will develop inside you. You’ll fear to lose her. Same thing goes with a girl. You just have to show her that she is not alone; there are lots of other fishes in the sea. This is very basic technique but most of people are not acquainted with its powers. You just start talking to as many girls as you can. Compliment another girl when she is near you and notice the change in her expression. This change will tell you lots of things.
Dominate
I have been around with lots of girls, so, I understand their mentality. Weather they admit it or not girls always like a dominating partner. You will rarely see a girl getting impressed by men whom she can easily dominate. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying to dominate her, I am just saying don’t get dominated by her. You should know when to put your foot down. I have seen my friends turning into a pet while trying to get their girl. None of them succeeded. They say a man is clever when he can learn from someone else mistakes. Be clever.
Safe and Dangerous
You should appear safe and dangerous at the same time. I know most of you didn’t understand what I meant. Let me explain. If a girl feels that she is safe with you and nothing can hurt her when you are by her side, then, there is a probability that she will fall for you. And when I said you should be dangerous too, by that I meant you shouldn’t be boring. You will have people around you who like to be on the safer side, like wearing seatbelt all the time and following all the rules no matter how senseless they are. There are few girls who like these kind of guys but as I said “Few”. Majority are on the other side. So, make her feel safe but be dangerous.
Be patient
The problem with today’s generation is that they are not patient at all. This is very important. You should be very patient with her. If you straight away tell her about your feelings she won’t believe you. This is not their fault. There are lots of loonies present in this world who say anything to get her into bed and they know it. That’s why she won’t respond well if jump out of nowhere with your feelings, no matter how genuine they are.
Be unpredictable
This is in very general I am talking. Most of the people, including me, like people who are unpredictable and I don’t know the reason behind it. Maybe if you are predictable you occur boring.
In pretty woman, Edward (Richard Gere) says to Vivian(Julia Roberts), “There are very few people who surprise me”, and I think that’s where it all begin. So, do something different every now and then, surprise her.
Talent
Girls are suckers for a boy with talent. It could be anything from dancing to singing. I advice to learn a musical instrument, it works wonder. Suddenly, you’ll find yourself covered all over by girls, like, snake on a sandalwood tree. Or you can go onto more romantic side; poetry.
So, here we are at the end. I hope you liked it. These are few of the techniques that I have been using and seeing people use for many years. I may post another article regarding the same topic. I wish this article helps you.
Steps to get a girlfriend
Now there can be two possibilities you want a girlfriend that could be-
1. You are frustrated to see all around couples holding hands ,sitting at benches etc.. and that’s why you also dream to be one of them or you just think that this is high time now should get a girlfriend.
2.You have a girl in your group ,college or surroundings whom you know.I mean you already know her and you just want to be her partner.
Now I ill help you out in both the cases.Lets take the first case.
First case – You didn’t find anyone
1.So in this case you don’t know any one whom you are attracted to but you have decided that you want a girlfriend.
Ok well my friend here are my first words of advice for you. Getting a girlfriend is not like buying a vegetable from the market. You can’t choose what you would like or get.
It is emotions, it is feelings that comes from within, it is her presence around you that will make you realize that “yes she is the one”.
Now hope you might have understood this but if you still say no I need one any how then my suggestion for you would be-
Know more girls around you,talk to more and more girls.Spend some time on internet ,there are many popular sites for dating may be they might help you.You can make use of social networking sites as well.
List of some free dating sites-
Matchmaker.com
Match.com
Date .com
Jumpdates.com
Datehookup.com
Singlesnet .com
Okcupid.com
Second Case – You know someone
In this case I can totally help you to get her as your girlfriend.So you know her ,you have some feeling for her ,you find yourself attracted to her.
Now you are finding it difficult to approach her ,or may be you want some advices.
[I hope you have gone through my above tips because here I am going to apply them.]
Step 1- Introduce your self
First and foremost step is to introduce yourself to her in a correct way.
Tips-
Don’t be hesitant.Come on! You are just introducing yourself to her ,its not a big deal.
Be confident.What ever you say,say it confidently.
Ask her casually about herself.
Step 2 –Try to come close to her
Introduction is over ,now you need to go close to her.Here I doesn’t mean that you have to run for this,just go slowly and steadily with the flow.Say “hi” in a way that is different from others whenever you meet her.
Ask her if she ever need your help she can contact you.
Step 3- Ask her for contact number
Two things you can do first is, when you offer to help you could probably give your number and say” You can contact me for any help” and ask her to give you a miss call.So that you can also get her number too.
Second thing is you can directly ask her number ,but ask for it very confidently.If not number then social profile address etc..
Step 4 – Contact her
Now you have a nice chance to know her better and a chance to open yourself with her.You can contact her via message or some social networking.
Tips – Don’t do it too much ,it can irritate her.
Step 5- Use confusing technique
Now as I mentioned earlier about this technique .I would say try it now as you are little close to her.So do it now as it is the right time.Make her confuse so it will create her interest more on you.
Step 6 – Give her some signs
Give her some hints what you feel for her.But don’t do it directly just give her some hints with the gestures ,way of taking to her etc..
Step 7 – Check for her behavior too
Check if she also has developed some feelings for you,if so, then I think it is the right time to propose her.
Step 8 – Propose her
Now time has come for which you have waited for so long.Make it special.
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[Tips- The above all steps should go in a flow,you should be patient enough for the things to go well]











Hi Shorya,
This was a wonderful post, brother.
I really appreciated the effort you made to write it. One point that really resonated with me was when you advised to know more girls. This is great advice for guys. Indeed, the more a guy meets and surrounds himself with women, the greater his chances of getting a girlfriend.
Thank you.
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Hi Hiten,
Thanks alot mate ,i am glad you like my post.Actually my this post was for those who find it very difficult to get a girlfriend and because of that they are very frustrated in life.So i thought to make it little easy for them or help them.
Yes ofcourse when a guy meets many girls chances are great but also they great chance to open up with girls.I have seen many guys they dont really jal up well with the girls , so that is a great drawback.
Thank You
Shorya Bist
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I never have any girlfriend before, but now I’m thinking to get one. But one question. What should I do if she already have boyfriend?
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Hi Hossain,
If you are looking for a girl who is already committed then my suggestion would be “no worries if she is committed turn back and see there are alot of girls around you.
But if you are serious and you really see that you are better then her current partner then i would say prove it to her.Make her realize how you feel for her not go directly and say “i love you and be my girlfriend”LOL rather you just be yourself and open up your feelings in front of her and let her decide.
Thank You
Shorya Bist
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Interesting Shorya!
Hmm…I guess this is what the guys who don’t find girlfriends or have problems in finding them must be facing. You surely covered up all the details pretty well in the post that are from a boys point of view I think.
However, I wonder if you thought about how and what the girls would be thinking about this.
Speaking of myself, (not necessarily for other girls of course) – I would never like to be confused! Instead, I would prefer that things remain straight and clear right from the start, which avoids misunderstandings later and helps develop trust in a relationship. Similarly, I wonder if keeping a distance really works because a girl would like to get to know you better initially through talking and sharing things with you, and we do know that communication is the key. Also, jealously rarely works, whereas if you really want to win her over – show you love her and not mingle with other girls as she might just dump you too.
Ah…those 3 points are something I differ a little in, though it’s from a girls point of view and I might be wrong too, so forgive me in that case. Thanks for sharing.

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Hi Harleena Ji,
Thanks for sharing your view over the topic and i am glad you have mentioned some points that are helpful and giving value to the article.
I think when i mentioned about “confuse her” that means i want to say that make her mind think about the changing behavior of yourself.Suppose i go to a girl talk to her very nicely and reply to her very sweety for some day now i am little bit close to her and suddenly i just change my behavior and keep myself little away from her.first question that will come to her mind will be “why is he doing this all of a sudden and this will make her think about the guy.And she will definetly want to know what is the reason he is doing this.
I have done this so this was a nice trick you can say that worked for me.Even i have read this technique in many some books also.
When you mentioned about “communication “is the best way yes i do believe it is the best way to open up your self in front of a girl i have mentioned it the steps at the last section of the article.
About Yes here i agree with you that jealously rarely works but some times it can play a big role.
These all things is not understandable at the moment because we already here imagined all of the things so we are playing from both sides but when a girl dont know all the intension and dont know how the guy is trying things to get her then possibly these things will work.
Thank You
Shorya Bist
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i m really impressed with your blogging style and i enjoy when i read it. The steps u mentioned to get a girlfriend really appriciated.
Hi Meetru ji,
I am glad that you liked it. It means a lot.
Thanking you
Shorya Bist
Have you ever thought if you are having a confused girlfriend as your friend she might well be confused about some other guy while being in your life. I dont know what is the target to attract just a girl or a sane girl ? lol
Distance is a nice point it helps you realize if you are really interested in the guy, but more so it must be done with sensitiveness too much distance would make girls indifferent and too less would make her uncomfti. Rather I would suggest be present yet stop poking your mind at every thing she does or stop responding at everything she does.
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Hi Shreya ji,
I agree with your point of view. I believe everything should have a limit associated with it. Particularly in this case. It is little complicated and there is no sure shot formula. Trick here is to be genuine, then, everything will fall into places.
Thanking You
Shorya Bist
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Hey,
really nice way to move forward in a relationship.appreciate your effort to start a clean and pure thinking.
Good going

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